Hint: it’s NOT for your guys.

Because we are now living in a fabulously patriarchal community that’s not exactly exactly about in women’s empowerment, we discover ourselves in somewhere where ladies satisfaction is seldom (if) based around conversations about sex. We especially you shouldn’t talk about ladies’ sexuality as being concentrated on enjoyment. In most cases, it really is centered on the gratification of males.

So what happens when we discuss women whom sleep along with other girls? Here is a hint: we just you shouldn’t speak about it anyway. And, whenever we would, we again focus it on male gratification.

Because this rad patriarchal society doesn’t want to share ladies’ delight, and women pleasuring additional females, we’re going to discuss simply that—and rip along the notorious misconceptions concerning girl-on-girl hookups.

1. All we carry out is go-down on each additional.

Taking place. Eating at restaurants. Or, the hottest option to state it—cunnilingus. Whenever we aren’t scissoring in porno (we’ll reach that next), we are eating each other down. It all boils down to preference! There’s really no rulebook that says queer women need to go down on both constantly. Some people really don’t like it anyway, that is certainly fine. No body provides gender exactly the same way! That’s why its so fun to fairly share.

2. Oh, and scissoring. Such scissoring.

Scissoring is sort of humorous since it doesn’t work for all. I’m sure some partners who swear because of it and others exactly who give it a try and just end up chuckling and doing things more. It is rather much based on anatomy—remember, not all the genitals are identical!—and inclination. Everybody knows chances are that many lesbians in porno are actually straight ladies executing for men, correct? So possibly do not count on pornography for queer woman intercourse ideas. But, if you want scissoring about selection, next by all means, select it once in a while.

3. We exercise for guys.

Only, no. We do so for ourselves. Then question.

4. Strap-ons are a metropolitan legend.

Whenever directly men and women ask me about strap-ons, they whisper the phrase like they can be telling me a spooky myth they heard of once over a camp flame. Some people like strap-ons. Some individuals detest all of them. Many of us use them every once in a while. Plus, some right partners are completely involved with it. If you are therefore fascinated, offer ‘em a try!

5. One of you is constantly dressed in a snapback.

This really is a funnier one, however for whatever cause there is this idea that, in a queer few, one individual must use a snapback. There is nothing incorrect with snapbacks. I do believe they can be hot. But they aren’t required for sexual climaxes, cool while they is.

6. We constantly orgasm.

I will enable you to in on a secret: the idea that most queer girls carry out is actually have sex and orgasm all night on end and do not have poor, uncomfortable, stumbly intercourse? It really is a complete, gigantic rest. We might both end up being women, but that does not mean we’re mirror pictures of every other. Not all women are alike or react exactly the same way to specific stimulus. Figures you should not all get down with the same gender stuff, many people like items that other people would not, ever before decide to try. The same as additional couples, ladies who date females need to take time to determine what each other loves.

Then its all orgasms always. (Just kidding.)

7. We’re anti-penis.

Alright, you need to discuss this. Many lesbians within the media (and, well, in actual life) want to joke precisely how much they simply detest penises as well as how they are merely thus homosexual they would never be capable of getting down with cock. Nevertheless the problem the following is it’s transphobic as hell to behave as with any ladies have vaginas, and just guys have penises. No one’s proclaiming that you have to rest with anyone you ought not risk make love with, but we’ve got to cease caught badmouthing penises on a regular basis. They’re only genitals! They did not do just about anything incorrect.

Plus, this perpetuates the idea that every queer women can be lesbians. Some people are ace, some of us are bi, most are skillet, some are simply ol’ queer, etc… We’re complex, and we’ve reached end perpetuating weird BS in this way.

8. we have never been with a man.

Going off that last point, never assume all queer ladies are just thinking about making love with females. Many of us have had gender with males. Some of us experienced sex with non-binary and genderqueer people. Some of us never had gender with any individual but females, but still ID as bi or cooking pan. It really is good, whatever.

No matter what we obtain lewd, we are exactly who we say we’re. Trust you. No one is any much less queer considering how they get set.